AITA for not comforting my husband when he became anxious during a flight?

A newly married couple was on their way to Mexico for their honeymoon, traveling on a three-hour flight. The wife, who flew frequently for work and had accumulated plenty of airline miles, realized at the last minute that she might be able to upgrade their seats. However, when they checked in, only her husband was offered a complimentary upgrade to business class.

The wife initially objected to being separated during their honeymoon, but her husband was eager to experience business class for the first time and convinced her to let him take the upgrade. Although she agreed, she felt hurt and disappointed, especially after being left alone in economy class.

As the flight progressed, the husband began texting his wife about his fear of flying and looked to her for comfort and reassurance. Still upset by his decision to leave her behind, the wife chose not to respond to his messages, feeling abandoned and unappreciated.

Later, the husband tried to make peace by sharing part of his business-class breakfast and explaining that his anxiety about flying had made him seek support from her. The gesture, however, did little to ease her frustration. She responded with sarcasm, making it clear that she was still upset about spending part of their honeymoon flight apart.

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AITA for ignoring my husband during our flight when he expressed anxiety over flying?

I [33F] recently married my husband [30M] and we took a 3 hour flight to Mexico for our honeymoon.

I fly a lot for my job, so I have racked up a lot of miles. My husband isn’t a big fan of flying, though he has gotten better and tends to just hold my hand and close his eyes during take off and landing (mostly okay when in the air).

When I booked our flights I requested to use my points if an upgrade to business class became available, but made it clear I only wanted this upgrade if two seats became available and then basically forgot about it.

Then comes the day of our flight. I was so excited for this trip, I checked us in online, all is going well, and then when we go to board the person scanning out boarding passes stops us. She says it seems that my husband was upgraded to business class, but ONLY him and asks if that is okay. I immediately say no, we are on our honeymoon and would like to stay together. But then my husband jumps in and says, “No it’s fine, I’ll go to business class!” I look at him in complete shock and he tells me that I fly all the time and have been in business class before, but he hasn’t. So he deserves a chance to experience it.

I see we are holding up the line, so I feel like I just need to agree and get on the plane. To say I am pissed off is an understatement. He is all smiles, taking his seat and I go back to my seat where they sit me next to an old woman with a baby on her lap where my husband should be sitting.

Within maybe 5-10 minutes of sitting there, trying to hold back tears because my husband left me alone on our flight during our honeymoon (and uses MY points for his upgrade no less), he starts to text me saying he feels anxiety over flying. I ignore the texts and stop looking at my phone.

Within maybe an hour after we are in the air, he comes to the back of the plane to find me, offers me half of his business class breakfast and asks me why I was ignoring him – that he was scared and needed me to tell him it’d be okay since I am such an experienced flyer. I told him maybe he should have thought about that before leaving me alone before our honeymoon even really began. He gets angry, tells me that this may be the only time he gets to fly business class and he was giving me half his breakfast to make up for it so I could at least be supportive of his genuine fear. I roll my eyes, sarcastically say “thanks” and he goes back up to his seat.

When we landed I tried to just move on and forget about it so that we could just enjoy our honeymoon, but he guilt tripped me about not comforting him via text before take off and now I am wondering if I am being unreasonable and should have just let him enjoy his time in business class and ensure him it’d be okay. So AITA?