AITA for reporting my boyfriend’s mother after she used my card information without permission?

A troubling situation unfolds for a 22-year-old woman (OP) after a dispute involving her boyfriend’s mother, Lisa, 70. The issue began at a family funeral, where Lisa allegedly went through OP’s bag when it was briefly unattended. At the time, OP did not realize her wallet, along with her card details, had been taken.

A few days later, OP noticed her card was missing while trying to use it at a gas station. After searching and checking with her boyfriend Greg, who was visiting his parents, the card suddenly reappeared on top of a washing machine. However, the situation escalated when OP later discovered unauthorized activity on her bank account, including an Amazon purchase she did not recognize.

Further investigation pointed toward Lisa, who admitted to taking the card and making the purchase, claiming she intended to pay the money back quickly. According to OP, Lisa has a history of financial problems, including gambling and previous incidents involving money-related misconduct, which added to the seriousness of the situation.

Feeling violated and betrayed, OP chose to report the matter to the authorities and pursue legal action. Lisa reacted angrily, accusing OP of overreacting and insisting she should have waited for repayment instead of involving the police.

Greg ultimately sided with OP and acknowledged his mother’s ongoing financial struggles and past issues. As tensions rose within the family, the situation remained unresolved, leaving OP firm in her decision to move forward with legal steps despite the emotional strain it has caused.

The incident highlights how quickly trust and family relationships can be damaged when personal boundaries and financial security are violated, leaving everyone involved dealing with the consequences.

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AITA? I’m Pressing Charges Against My BF’s Mom After She Stole My Card Info

So I (22F) am dating Greg (25M). His mom is Lisa (70F). Last month we attended a funeral for a family member of Greg and Lisa. After the service, everyone was mingling in the fellowship hall and eating, and Lisa stepped out for a smoke break. I happened to see her, through one of the open church windows, get into the back seat of the car while lighting her cigarette, and then she started rummaging in the large bag that I brought along. I didn’t thing anything of it, as I had brought the bag so I could carry any extra things anybody needed, including lighters for instance, so I thought that’s what she was fishing for. I went back to socializing and supporting Greg. Something that is relevant, but that I forgot at the time, is that I had left my wallet in that bag.

Anyway, I stopped by the gas station two days later for some gas, and realized I was missing my card from my wallet. I used ApplePay so I could get my gas, went home, and started searching. I also called Greg, who was at his parents’ home, and asked if he could search there and see if I misplaced it somehow. I only take it out of my wallet if I’m using it and the put it right back in, but, I thought that maybe I was shuffling things in my wallet, put it down, and forgot about it.

I didn’t find my card, Greg didn’t find my card, and I decided to give it one more day before I cancelled it because maybe it would just pop up. I had also not noticed any transactions through my bank app that weren’t from me. The next day, Greg texted me saying he found my card on top of the washer. He said he doesn’t know how he missed it, but it was there waiting when he went to do some laundry. I told him I’d get it from him in a couple days when he came back to our apartment. The next day was pay day, I checked my account to see what I made, and I noticed directly below the direct deposit was a withdrawal for an Amazon order. I haven’t placed an order for anything from Amazon in weeks, and checking on my account confirmed that. I asked Greg if used my card to make a purchase, and he said no of course not, he would never do so without asking.

I cancelled the card and reported potential fraud, and then it was discovered that LISA has used my card for the purchase because she couldn’t find hers. She said she would pay me back soon, and that she really needed it. I don’t know what she bought, but I don’t care considering she STOLE my card. She also apparently has a history with gambling and stealing, she has taken money from Greg before, and a driving factor of her divorce with Greg’s father was that she stole most of his savings while they were separated. He has never recovered the money, but it was almost half a million.

I decided I would involve the cops, and now Lisa is furious and saying I’m being a brat and a lot of other insults and that I could have just waited for her to pay me back. Even though she also has a rep of not paying people.

Edit: No, Lisa didn’t have Greg at 45. She and her now-ex-husband adopted him as an infant.

Edit 2: No, Greg was not “in on it”. Yes, he’s on my side. Also, I didn’t come here for financial advice, so please stop giving it. I do not care what your opinion/advice is regarding my lack of credit history.